Researchers can now predict with more than 90 percent accuracy who will enjoy a successful relationship and who will suffer distress and divorce. To a large degree the findings in these studies do not line up with popular opinion of what makes marriage work or fail. I've generalized the discrepancies below.
Popular Opinion: Whom you marry determines your chances for a happy marriage.
Studies Show: Marital happiness has little to do with whom you marry and everything to do with how you cope with conflict.
Popular Opinion: Personality flaws and irritating faults are the under lying cause of marital distress.
Studies Show: Personality flaws and irritating faults do not predict marital happiness or marital stability.
Popular Opinion: Compatibility and similar likes and dislikes determine relationship success.
Studies Show: It's not how similar or different you are; it's how you handle differences when they arise that counts.
Popular Opinion: Problems experienced during early years will heal themselves and get better in time. Studies Show: Problems worsen over time, and it's much wiser to deal with them early, when they are easier to handle.
Popular Opinion: Men and women have different needs in marriage and have different approaches to intimacy.
Studies Show: The major differences between men and women in marriage lies in the way they handle conflict rather than in their approach to intimacy.
Popular Opinion: When a couple loves each other enough and are really committed, they can solve any problem.
Studies Show: Love is needed to begin a relationship, but it doesn't provide enough fuel over time to keep the relationship successful. Nor does commitment. Again, it's how couples manage conflict that makes the difference.
Highly effective marriages are the result of more than just compatibility and commitment. Effective communication and conflict management skills are vital. There will always be differences of opinion over likes, desires, and how to get things done. Setting up a home together provides fertile ground for disagreements over how to earn and spend money, keep house, raise children, and spend free time, as well as how to meet each other's needs.
(Nancy L. Van Pelt, Highly Effective Marriage. Review and Herald Publishing Association, Hagerstown, MD. 2000[18,19])
Tuesday, December 04, 2007
Friday, November 16, 2007
Thursday, September 06, 2007
This is one of the shortest psalm in Psalms. This psalms talks about peace and how good it will be when brothers are in united spirit and worship the Lord. Jews sing this psalm during their Sabbath gathering, especially during the time they are ready to go home after worship... Hodu L'adonai Ki Tov, Kille Olam Khasdo.... This nice cultural song, create the ambience of peace...
Psalms Chapter 133
א שִׁיר הַמַּעֲלוֹת, לְדָוִד:הִנֵּה מַה-טּוֹב, וּמַה-נָּעִים-- שֶׁבֶת אַחִים גַּם-יָחַד.
1 A Song of Ascents; of David. {N}Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
ב כַּשֶּׁמֶן הַטּוֹב, עַל-הָרֹאשׁ--יֹרֵד, עַל-הַזָּקָן זְקַן-אַהֲרֹן:שֶׁיֹּרֵד, עַל-פִּי מִדּוֹתָיו
2 It is like the precious oil upon the head, {N}coming down upon the beard; even Aaron's beard, {N}that cometh down upon the collar of his garments;
ג כְּטַל-חֶרְמוֹן-- שֶׁיֹּרֵד, עַל-הַרְרֵי צִיּוֹן:כִּי שָׁם צִוָּה יְהוָה, אֶת-הַבְּרָכָה--חַיִּים, עַד-הָעוֹלָם.
3 Like the dew of Hermon, that cometh down upon the mountains of Zion; {N}for there the LORD commanded the blessing, {N}even life for ever. {P}
Psalms Chapter 133
א שִׁיר הַמַּעֲלוֹת, לְדָוִד:הִנֵּה מַה-טּוֹב, וּמַה-נָּעִים-- שֶׁבֶת אַחִים גַּם-יָחַד.
1 A Song of Ascents; of David. {N}Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
ב כַּשֶּׁמֶן הַטּוֹב, עַל-הָרֹאשׁ--יֹרֵד, עַל-הַזָּקָן זְקַן-אַהֲרֹן:שֶׁיֹּרֵד, עַל-פִּי מִדּוֹתָיו
2 It is like the precious oil upon the head, {N}coming down upon the beard; even Aaron's beard, {N}that cometh down upon the collar of his garments;
ג כְּטַל-חֶרְמוֹן-- שֶׁיֹּרֵד, עַל-הַרְרֵי צִיּוֹן:כִּי שָׁם צִוָּה יְהוָה, אֶת-הַבְּרָכָה--חַיִּים, עַד-הָעוֹלָם.
3 Like the dew of Hermon, that cometh down upon the mountains of Zion; {N}for there the LORD commanded the blessing, {N}even life for ever. {P}
“I AM the CARBOHYDRATE”
“I AM the CARBOHYDRATE”
Every morning when I go for breakfast, I will find noodles, bread or rice prepared for breakfast for us in the college cafeteria. I like to eat them and I need them to fill my stomach. But I prefer to have “roti chanai”. when I eat “roti canai” I feel I’m satisfied and full. I felt like my need is fulfilled.
Something to think about, each and everyone here tend to have our own favourite…. Hmmm …. Let me put it in this way. Every one of us likes to have certain type of meal which will fulfill our needs and also our taste. Sometimes, when we travel to places far away from home and our culture. We tend not to get the food that we used to eat when we were at home land. I’m now living in my campus and I tend not to get certain food that daily offer to me when I was back at home. I still eat the bread, noodles and rice. Rice is still my main food buy I cant live without eating “roti chanai”. It is because I grew up eating “roti chanai” almost every morning. Some of my friends back at home, they can’t live without eating “nasi lemak”. Some of my friends in this campus tend to eat noodles in every meal. It is because they want their need to be fulfilled. In their country, they tend to eat noodles every day, it explains because they are from noodle eating society. My other European friends, they tend to eat bread every morning and they even complaint about it. They complaint about the bread been offered in the cafeteria. They said that this bread is not exactly the kind of bread they eat in Europe. Even there are differences in bread.
In all these differences, there is one truth and also one reality. It is that we need carbohydrate. The main food that we eat, whether it might be “roti canai”, “nasi lemak”, noodles, or bread. In all these, the main nutrition that we need is carbohydrate. Carbohydrate is there in every main and daily food. Human body needs more of this nutrition called carbohydrate. It doesn’t matter in what form they are. The matter is we need to get the carbohydrate in the way we like and used to it.
All that I want to say is this, If Jesus lives now in our time, the term He would use will be “I AM the Carbohydrate, whoever comes to me will never hunger or thirst, and will receive the Living Carbohydrate.” Yes, my friends, WE NEED JESUS and it doesn’t matter in what form we take him into us. It doesn’t matter whether we eat rice or noodles at the end we are getting carbohydrate from this food. An Asian can’t live without rice, since it is his culture and also life style. European can’t leave or will not feel comfortable to not eat bread everyday. It depends on our culture and context. All we need to do is excavate Christ in us and our context. Let Christ be the Carbohydrate in “roti chanai” for Indians, in “Char Keow Teaw” for Chinese, “Nasi Lemak” for Malays and bread for Europeans.
Remember one think before leave this page. Christ is our Carbohydrate.
Every morning when I go for breakfast, I will find noodles, bread or rice prepared for breakfast for us in the college cafeteria. I like to eat them and I need them to fill my stomach. But I prefer to have “roti chanai”. when I eat “roti canai” I feel I’m satisfied and full. I felt like my need is fulfilled.
Something to think about, each and everyone here tend to have our own favourite…. Hmmm …. Let me put it in this way. Every one of us likes to have certain type of meal which will fulfill our needs and also our taste. Sometimes, when we travel to places far away from home and our culture. We tend not to get the food that we used to eat when we were at home land. I’m now living in my campus and I tend not to get certain food that daily offer to me when I was back at home. I still eat the bread, noodles and rice. Rice is still my main food buy I cant live without eating “roti chanai”. It is because I grew up eating “roti chanai” almost every morning. Some of my friends back at home, they can’t live without eating “nasi lemak”. Some of my friends in this campus tend to eat noodles in every meal. It is because they want their need to be fulfilled. In their country, they tend to eat noodles every day, it explains because they are from noodle eating society. My other European friends, they tend to eat bread every morning and they even complaint about it. They complaint about the bread been offered in the cafeteria. They said that this bread is not exactly the kind of bread they eat in Europe. Even there are differences in bread.
In all these differences, there is one truth and also one reality. It is that we need carbohydrate. The main food that we eat, whether it might be “roti canai”, “nasi lemak”, noodles, or bread. In all these, the main nutrition that we need is carbohydrate. Carbohydrate is there in every main and daily food. Human body needs more of this nutrition called carbohydrate. It doesn’t matter in what form they are. The matter is we need to get the carbohydrate in the way we like and used to it.
All that I want to say is this, If Jesus lives now in our time, the term He would use will be “I AM the Carbohydrate, whoever comes to me will never hunger or thirst, and will receive the Living Carbohydrate.” Yes, my friends, WE NEED JESUS and it doesn’t matter in what form we take him into us. It doesn’t matter whether we eat rice or noodles at the end we are getting carbohydrate from this food. An Asian can’t live without rice, since it is his culture and also life style. European can’t leave or will not feel comfortable to not eat bread everyday. It depends on our culture and context. All we need to do is excavate Christ in us and our context. Let Christ be the Carbohydrate in “roti chanai” for Indians, in “Char Keow Teaw” for Chinese, “Nasi Lemak” for Malays and bread for Europeans.
Remember one think before leave this page. Christ is our Carbohydrate.
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Family Photos!!!
.BMP)
On the 12th of August I went back home to celebrate (Doret) my younger brother's 21st birthday. He is the one standing first from the right.
I'm really glad that I have wonderful family blessed by GOD and Guarded by ALMIGHTY.... Thank You Lord...
Wednesday, April 04, 2007
Pathfinder Induction Ceremony In Sungei Way!
On Sunday, April 1st, 2007. Pathfinder Induction Ceremony was held here in Sungei Way Church. It was interesting experience for those who are new to this club.
I will upload most of the pictures taken during this event....
A quote to share "Youths are not Useless, But they are used less!"
Friday, February 23, 2007
I will update my blogs when I'm settle down
Dear readers and friends,
I'm already moved to Malaysia and busy to settle down in KL... After I settle down, I will blog again... Until then... be patient OK... Take care...
I'm already moved to Malaysia and busy to settle down in KL... After I settle down, I will blog again... Until then... be patient OK... Take care...
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